A month after rejection, let me know how I've done

fess26 · 03-09-2010, 11:20 PM

My name is Chucky and I'm in college. I fell for a girl who lives in my dorm. When I first met her last fall, she had just broken up with her boyfriend and I was in a phase where I just wasn't attracted to anyone, her included. We got to be really good friends and I enjoyed hanging out with her. She's a very charming girl. Over the next few months, whenever I'd get a little stressed from school work, I'd get moments where I'd find her really attractive, but I'd deny it, as I didn't like the idea of dating someone from within my dorm and me and her had gotten real tight. We would always confide to each other about all the melodramatic people we have to deal with in the dorm.

In January, we spent more time together. Her friends started commenting that we were looking cute together and stuff like that. We'd deny it. Then one night, we went out drinking and spent the whole night talking to each other having fun, but on the walk back to our dorm, a friend of mine who had had a crush on her in the fall (he had a girlfriend at this point, but obviously was still infatuated with her) yelled at her for trying to hook up with me. I got mad at my friend for that and I guess through that anger, the chatter of everyone else, and how much fun we had together, I stopped denying all those flashes of attraction I had for her and got a legitimate crush. She was giving out vibes that she was attracted to me as well.

About a week later, we went out drinking again and she was dancing with another guy. I started feeling a little jealous. She came to tell me how creepy that guy was. And I let it slip that it made me kind of jealous. She responds, "Are you saying you have a crush on me?" I said, "I guess I am." She goes, "I kind of have a crush on you too. When I met you in the beginning of the year, I thought you were really cute, and wanted to hook up with you at that party...I have a lot of fun with you." And we talked for a bit more and then the rest of our group caught up with us and we went to our dorm and went to sleep.

The next morning I asked her to go to the parades with me (we go to school in New Orleans) and she says sure. Then at the last second suggests we go with a group of people and sticks with her gay friend all night. The next morning, she tells me that she thinks it's things are better as friends, that she's not really looking for a relationship, and that it'd be hard being in a relationship in our dorm. I tell her it's cool, I understand, give her a hug and tell her I hope she wouldn't feel uncomfortable around me.

Despite our rhetoric, I've been noticing there is a bit of weird friction between us now and I'm really scared I've put a wrench in our close friendship. It's been about a week and I've been to the gym a lot, made lists of reasons it wouldn't of worked out, looked at bad pictures of her on facebook, and met other girls and I feel like I'm pretty much over it.

Can anybody give me advice on how to get our friendship back? Could anyone speculate on what is going through her head? Thank you.

fess26 · 03-09-2010, 11:21 PM

Ignore the title. That's a computer screw up.

03-09-2010, 11:20 PM	#1
fess26 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Gender: Male Status: Single Posts: 4	A month after rejection, let me know how I've done My name is Chucky and I'm in college. I fell for a girl who lives in my dorm. When I first met her last fall, she had just broken up with her boyfriend and I was in a phase where I just wasn't attracted to anyone, her included. We got to be really good friends and I enjoyed hanging out with her. She's a very charming girl. Over the next few months, whenever I'd get a little stressed from school work, I'd get moments where I'd find her really attractive, but I'd deny it, as I didn't like the idea of dating someone from within my dorm and me and her had gotten real tight. We would always confide to each other about all the melodramatic people we have to deal with in the dorm. In January, we spent more time together. Her friends started commenting that we were looking cute together and stuff like that. We'd deny it. Then one night, we went out drinking and spent the whole night talking to each other having fun, but on the walk back to our dorm, a friend of mine who had had a crush on her in the fall (he had a girlfriend at this point, but obviously was still infatuated with her) yelled at her for trying to hook up with me. I got mad at my friend for that and I guess through that anger, the chatter of everyone else, and how much fun we had together, I stopped denying all those flashes of attraction I had for her and got a legitimate crush. She was giving out vibes that she was attracted to me as well. About a week later, we went out drinking again and she was dancing with another guy. I started feeling a little jealous. She came to tell me how creepy that guy was. And I let it slip that it made me kind of jealous. She responds, "Are you saying you have a crush on me?" I said, "I guess I am." She goes, "I kind of have a crush on you too. When I met you in the beginning of the year, I thought you were really cute, and wanted to hook up with you at that party...I have a lot of fun with you." And we talked for a bit more and then the rest of our group caught up with us and we went to our dorm and went to sleep. The next morning I asked her to go to the parades with me (we go to school in New Orleans) and she says sure. Then at the last second suggests we go with a group of people and sticks with her gay friend all night. The next morning, she tells me that she thinks it's things are better as friends, that she's not really looking for a relationship, and that it'd be hard being in a relationship in our dorm. I tell her it's cool, I understand, give her a hug and tell her I hope she wouldn't feel uncomfortable around me. Despite our rhetoric, I've been noticing there is a bit of weird friction between us now and I'm really scared I've put a wrench in our close friendship. It's been about a week and I've been to the gym a lot, made lists of reasons it wouldn't of worked out, looked at bad pictures of her on facebook, and met other girls and I feel like I'm pretty much over it. Can anybody give me advice on how to get our friendship back? Could anyone speculate on what is going through her head? Thank you.

03-09-2010, 11:21 PM	#2
fess26 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2010 Gender: Male Status: Single Posts: 4	Re: A month after rejection, let me know how I've done Ignore the title. That's a computer screw up.